by Rebecca Honig Friedman
The first woman known to have written an entire sefer Torah may also be the first woman to write the get for her own divorce. Ground-breaking soferet [female scribe] Jen Taylor Friedman, also the creator of Tefillin Barbie, writes in an email to Jewess:
I wrote my own get today. Because it says in the Mishnah that a woman can write her own get, and oh boy did I want to have an active part in my own freaking divorce. … Hooray for feeling empowered, I say.
I’ll say, too! Some women have trouble getting their husbands to agree to give them a get. Here Friedman has gotten her now-ex-husband to agree to let her write her own.
Friedman explains her decision and the halacha behind it on her blog, Hatam Soferet, here and here.
I was particularly struck by a passage in post #2. Writes Friedman:
I learned that although the wife is allowed to write the get, the husband isn’t allowed, which pleased me very much; the balance of power is not usually tipped that way. In any case, I was glad to be a real part of the process. I like my Judaism to be part of me - or should that be, I like to be part of my Judaism?
Nice to turn the tables around that way, particularly in a venue in which women have lately seemed so powerless.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 Filed under: Uncategorized |