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Jewcy Jewess Offers Teens Advice on Sex


by Rebecca Honig Friedman

Faithhacker’s Tamar Fox offers her answer to the Orthodox Union’s new, and deeply flawed, abstinence curriculum for Jewish teens: an honest, responsible, and sensitive talk on sex for teenage Jewesses.
Though Fox undercuts her message by saying she does not agree with everything she writes in the post, the overall message is an important one, and if we can find people who do believe in it to deliver it, that would be a good start.
The important thing about Fox’s post is that, in acknowledging that a gray area exists and that kids may make mistakes, it counters the black-and-white, wrong-or-right attitude found in abstinence-only curricula, and often in the Orthodox world in general. That attitude has driven many an Orthodox teenager to “fall off the path,” thinking that if they slip up a little, they might as well go whole hog.
Only when we acknowledge that the world is complicated, especially during adolescence, and that kids will make mistakes, can we equip them with the know-how to correct and learn from their bad choices, and not make them again.
Thank you, Tamar.

One Response to “Jewcy Jewess Offers Teens Advice on Sex”

  1. What an awesome birthday present! Thanks for the high praise.

    ::Sigh:: I know that I kind of undercut my message with the final disclaimer, but while I generally believe in the things I wrote, I’d be lying if I said I lived by them every minute of every day. Ultimately I think they need to be used as guidelines, and we need to completely revamp the way we teach relationship skills and sex ed in observant communities so that kids can make better wiser decisions, instead of just being told, “This isn’t allowed. This is allowed.”

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